To be courteous is a good exercise in good manners, appreciate courtesy in all its forms. A person who is courteous, is usually well liked by others, and his courtesy will encourage others to show their courtesy. Thus, a good and positive feeling will prevail.
A gentleman who is nice and quite, who shows a good measure of courtesy to others, who is humble enough, who greets others with a cheerful look, is a man who is appreciated by all. A Muslim is to endeavor for such manners.
So Islam encourages us to be COURTEOUS:
Let us see what the Holy Quran says about it:
وَاقصِد فی مَشیکَ وَاغضُض مِن صَوتِکَ اِنَ اَنکَرَالاَصواتِ لَصَوتُ الحَمیر
“AND BE MODERATE IN YOUR PACE AND LOWER YOUR VOLCE; FOR THE HARSHEST OF SOUNDS IS THE BRAYING OF THE ASS!”
(AL-Quran XXXI-17 to 19)
یا بُنیَ اَقِمِ الصَلوةَ وَ امرُ بِالمَعروُفِ وَاَنَهُ عَنِ المُنکَرِ وَ اصبِر عَلی ما اَصابَکَ اِنَّ ذلِکَ مِن عَزمِ الاُمُور
وَلا تُصَعِّر خَدَّکَ لِلناسِ وَلا تَمشِ فی الارَضِ مَرَحاً اِنَّ الله لا یُحِبُ کُلَ مُختالٍ فَخُورٍ
Lugman was advising his son:
“OH MY SON! BSTABLISH REGULAR PRAYER, ENJOIN WHAT IS JUST AND FORBID WHAT IS WRONG. BEAR WITH PATIENT CONSTANCY WHATEVER BEFALS YOU, FOR THIS IS FIRMNESS OF PURPOSE IN THE CONDUCT OF AFRAIRS.
AND SWELL NOT YOUR CHEEK WITH PRIDE AT MEN, NOR WALK WITH INSOLENCE THROUGH THE EARTH; FOR GOD LOVES NOT ANY ARPOGANT BOASTER.”
(AL –Quran XXXI-17)
وَ اِذا حُییتُم بِتَحیَّةٍ فَحَیوا بِاَحسَنَ او مِنها اَو رُدوُها
“WHEN YOU ARE GREETED, MEET IT WITH A MORE COURTEEOUS GREETING, OR (AT LEAST) OF EQUAL COURTESY.”
یا اَیها الذینَ امَنوا لا تَدخُلو بیوتَاً غَیرَ بُیوتِکُم حَتی تَستَانِسُوا وَتُسَلِموا عَلی اَهلِها
“O YOU WHO BELIEVE! DON’T ENTER HOUSES OTHER THAN YOUR OWN, UNTILL YOU HAVE ASKED PERMISSION AND GREETED THOSE IN THEM.”
(AL –Quran XXIV-27)
Being courteous makes people feel good, and makes them feel as if you care about them, as if you respect them and love them. Such a good feeling will also make the person showing courtesy feel nice inside, especially if he is appreciated by others.
Courtesy is part of good manners. Good manners are required of each Muslim to follow through. The holy Prophet urged us all to be humble, modest, courteous and respectful of others, and he urged the parents to teach their children such good qualities.
See what he says:
اَکمَلُ المومنینَ ایماناً اَحسَنُهُم خُلُقاً وَخیارُکُم خیارُکُم لِنِسائِهِم
“THE MOST PEREFCT AMONG THE FAITHFUL IS HE WHOSE MORAL CHARACTER IS THE BEST, AND THE BEST AMONG YOU ARE THOSE WHO ARE KINDEST TO THEIR WOMEN.”
“NO FATHER HAS GIVEN HIS GHILD ANYTHING BETTER THAN GOOD MANNERS.”
“RESPECT PEOPLE ACCORDING TO THEIR EMINENCE.”
“HUMILITY AND COURTESY ARE ACTS OF PIETY.”
“TRUE MODESTY IS THE SOURCE OF ALL VIRTUES.”
“WHOEVER IS HUMBLE TO MEN FOR GOD’S SAKE, MAY GOD EXALT HIS EMINENCE.”
“THE SERVANTS OF THE ALMIGHTY ARE WHO WALK ON THE EAPTH IN HUMBLENESS.”
So, Islam has emphasized good manners over and over again. It is good taste to have good manners. It is indeed very good to be the gentleman.
You are to be gentle and courteous to others, and to be kind and considerate to them. Thus you respect them and their point of view.
Besides, you should exercise restraint and humility. Humility is part of being gentlemanly. To be modest and to be humble is a great virtue in Islam. You can be modest and only in your dealings with are not good, and can lead to trouble.
A Good Muslim Will R EMEMBER:
1. To be courteous to others.
2. To be modest in his dealings with others, and most walks of life.
3. To be humble.
4. To strive to be a true gentleman.
5. To learn how to control himself.
6. Even a simple act of greeting should be returned more courteously.
7. He should be so gentlemanly that ever. Upon entering a home he should ask permission, then enter after greeting them!