ABOUT BEING CONTENTED AND GENTLE
You cannot be happy, unless you are well contented. Being thankful for what you have, having done your best, not aspiring for aims way beyond your reach and capacity, will put you in a situation of ease, a situation of being satisfied and contented with what you have got. Being contented is the basis for being happy.
Islam does encourage us to be CONTENTED and GENTLE:
It is for our own good, it is against greed, and high expectations, expectations that are beyond our reach. Too much and unreasonable expectations will make us miserable and unhappy since we cannot reach those goals. So it is good to be contented with what we are and with how we are and with what we have got.
Let us see what God’s messenger, Muhammad (P.B.U.H) says:
“RICHES ARE NOT FROM ABUNDANCE OF WORDLY GOODS, BUT FROM A CONTENTED HEART.”
“WHEN YOU SEE A PERSON WHO HAS BEEN GIVEN MORE THAN YOU IN MONEY AND BEAUTY; THEN LOOK TO THOSE WHO HAVE BEEN GIVEN LESS.”
“KOOK TO THOSE INFERIOR TO YOURSELVES; IT IS BEST FOR YOU, SO THAT YOU MAY NOT HOLD GOD’S BENEFITS IN CONTEMPT.”
“VERILY, GOD IS MILD AND IS FOND OF MILDNESS, AND HE GIVES TO THE MILD WHAT HE DOESN’T TO THE HARSH.”
“GOD IS GENTLE AND LOVES GENTLENESS.”
Do you want to be contented and happy or to be grumpy and miserable? Of course, everyone wants to be contented, since contentment is the doorway to happiness.
But you will be contented when you appreciate what you have got, whatever Almighty God has given you. And don’t try to compare yourself with those who have got far more than you have, otherwise you may become envious. If you want to compare yourself, then compare it to those who have got less than you, and be thankful.
When you are contented, you will be better satisfied, and you are more prone to be happy. You may feel some degree of serenity and gentleness within your heart.
THE ALMIGHTY is gentle and loves those who are gentle heart. So ask yourself, are you a contented fellow and gentle at heart?
A Good Muslim will Remember:
1. To try to feel contented fellow and gentle so that he may become happy.
2. To try to compare himself and what he has got to those who have less.
3. To be discontented may make him feel miserable, and he may become a burden on himself and on others.
4. If he is gentle at heart, he is more liable to be contented and happy.
On the contrary:
A greedy fellow will always want more and will strive for such on aim. The more he gets, the more he wants and the harder he tries. The more this goes on, the more he is likely to get into trouble. He becomes unhappy, worrisome, greedy, demanding, and sooner or later other people will be hurt by him directly or indirectly.
Much of the trouble in the world today, in the past and in the future is a result of greed. This greed may be for position, for material goods, or other facets of life. The more the people are after their own greedy desires, the more they are likely to cause or initiate trouble.
Islam urges us to be moderate, to take it easy and avoid being greedy. Thus by being contented, we build the basis for our happiness.