A BOUT FORGIVENESS:
Have you ever had an occasion when you were hurt, and you were in a position to forgive and forget? Of curse, all of us have. He who has the good heart will be he who is first to forgive. What a good feeling you will when you say “that’s o.k., forget about it.” Forgiveness is a wonderful quality, and all of us ought to do our best to exercise it whenever we can.
Islam urges us to FORGIVE:
When we forgive, we ought to do that from the bottom of our hearts. It shouldn’t in other words It ought to be something we will truly feel. He who forgives will one day be forgiven by someone else, so the feeling will be mutual.
The most forgiving of all is the Almighty, and he has mentioned that repeatedly in his holy book, the Quran. See what he says:
اِنَ الله الغَفوررَحیم
“SURELY, GOD IS FORGIVING, MERCIFUL.”
وَاٍِن تَعفُوا وَ تَصفَحُوا وَتَغفِروا فَانَ الله غَفُورٌ رَحیم
“AND IF YOU PARDON AND OVERLOOK IT, AND FORGIVE, VERILY GOD IS FORGIVING, COMPASSIONTE.”
(AL Quran LXIV- 14)
خُذِ العَفوَ وَامُر بِالعُرفِ وَ اَعرِض عَنِ الجاهِلینَ
“HOLD TO FORGIVENESS; AND COMMAND TO WHAT IS RIGHT.”
(AL Quran VII-199)
A person who gets hurt and is quick to retaliate, is a small person indeed. But he who forgives, is a person of a truly high quality and he will be credited by the Almighty for his acts.
See what Gods Messenger, Muhammad (P.B.U.H) has said:
“THE PERSON WHO IS MOST RESPECTABLE WITH GOD, IS HE WHO PARDONS, WHEN IT IS HIS POWER TO INJURE THE ONE WHO HAD INJRED HIM BEFORE.”
“IF THE UNBELIEVER KNEW OF THE EXTENT OF THE LORD’S MERCY HE WOULD NOT DESPAIR OF PARADISE.”
So, to forgive means that not only you have a big heart, but that you are understanding, and you can control yourself and do the super act of forgiving.
You show your forgiveness even when you are capable of retaliating or taking revenge. Better still, you can forgive despite your anger at the time. Such are the recommendations of the Messenger of God, and we ought to try our best to be big hearted when the need arises.
A Good Muslim Will Remember:
1. It is better and more decent to forgive than not to.
2. When he asks God’s forgiveness and gives it to him, a good Muslim should try his best to do the same to others.
3. Your being able to forgive while you are capable of hurting he who hurt you, is a highly prized quality.
On the Contrary:
He who wants to take revenge or retaliate is a person not in the true Islamic spirit. Taking revenge will do no more than to lead to more hurt feelings, to more destruction and to more losses. Revenge will breed revenge, and it is something that ought to be avoided. Not much can be gained by revenge except more trouble and destruction.
Our effort spent in fighting a tendency for taking revenge will be considered well by the Almighty and we will be rewarded for it. Our act of forgiving, thus following such a command by the Quran, is rewarded even better by the most forgiven of all, the Almighty.