Have you heard some people saying “oh how much I envy you!”? It is far better for you not fall in the trap of envy. Envy can destroy, and can hurt. It is much better to wish others well in whatever they have achieved rather than be envious of them. To wish them well will make you feel good and will make them feel as if they have a true friend whose heart is not tarnished.
Islam discourages us from ENVY:
See what Almighty God says:
قل اعوذ برب الفلق ، من شر ما خلق ...
“SAY: I TAKE REFUGE WITH THE LORD OF THE DAWN
AND FROM THE EVIL OF SOME ENVIER AS HE ENVIES.”
Thus, some people with envy in their heart can lead to destruction, and to some trouble.
God’s Messenger Muhammad (P.B.U.H.) says:
“KEEP YOURSELF FAR FROM ENVY; BECAUSE IT EATS UP AND TAKES AWAY GOOD ACTIONS AS FIRE EATS UP AND BURNS WOOD.”
“IF ENVY WERE PROPER, TWO PERSONS WOULD BE THE MOST PROPER OBJECTS OF IT:
ONE IS A MAN TO WHOM GOD HAS GIVEN RICHES, AND COMMANDS HIM TO BESTOW IN CHARITY;
THE OTHER IS ONE TO WHOM GOD HAS GRANTED THE KNOWLEDGE OF RELIGION, AND WHO ACTS THEREON HIMSELF AND IMPARTS INSTRUCTIONS TO OTHERS.”
One may ask: why being envious of others can be bad? The answer is that a person may go too far in his envy; he may say something that is distasteful to the one he is envious of.
Some people will go so far in their envy that they may destroy their relationship with others or even destroy property and what have you.
Beside, through envy, a person may start holding grudges and say some harsh words behind someone’s back, and cause destruction and harm to others.
However, there are some exceptions:
One example is he who is well off and helps the poor and the needy and does a good hob at giving charities. The other is the man who has studied Islam well, and has not only applied the knowledge but also has taught others that precious knowledge.
These are tow good example that any one can be envious of, and a source for imitation.
But why not be envious in words only?
If that is what you want, why do you want to feel inferior to the other person who has attained whatever you are envious of? Why don’t you be so contented and thankful for what you have already got? And how do you know that you may not keep your feeling of envy inside of you troubling you, thus paying the way to potential trouble?
Isn’t it better to be grateful to the Almighty for what he has provided you with? If yes, then be contented and happy, and wish others well, and be friends again.