IN REGARD TO THE WIFE
In married life, a husband lives with his wife for a long time, and sooner or later there will be many chances of misunderstanding. This can lead to disruption of family life, and bad feelings. Such feelings can gradually deteriorate the family bond, and may even lead to dissolution of the marriage, thereby everyone stands to lose.
Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) urges us to be kind and gentle to the wife, to be appreciative of the many qualities she has, and to appreciate the load of responsibilities she carries. He urges the Muslims to live in harmony in married life and to avoid discord as much as possible. Such a good relationship will strengthen the bonds among the members of the family and will make the family life much healthier.
Let us read some of those Hadiths:
اَکمَلُ المومنینَ ایماناً اَحسَنُهُم
خُلُقا وَ خیارُکُم خیارُکُم لِنِسا ئِهِم
“THE MOST PERFECT AMONG THE FAITHFULS IS HE WHOSE MORAL CHARACTER IS THE BEST, AND THE BEST AMONG YOU ARE THOSE WHO ARE KINDEST TO THEIR WOMEN.”
“ADMONISH YOUR WIVES WITH KINDNESS.”
“A MUSLIM MUST NOT HATE HIS WIFE; AND IF HE BE DISPLEASED WITH ONE BAD QUALITY IN HER, THEN LET HIN BE PLEASED WITH ANOTHER WHICH IS GOOD.”
“A VIRTUOUS WIFE IS A MAN’S BEST TREASURE.”
“GIVE YOUR WIFE GOOD COUNCIL, AND IF SHE HAS GOODNESS IN HER, SHE WILL SOON TAKE IT, AND LEAVE OFF LDLEE TALKING; AND DON’T TREAT YOUR NOBLE WIFE LIKE A SLAVE.”
Therefore, we are urged towards a life of full cooperation and love between husband and wife. A virtuous wife is a man’s best treasure. How wonderful and how far reaching a saying this is. A woman of virtue is and will be true to her husband, will be good to him, and will be excellent company to him in days of ease or days a difficulties.
Prophet Muhammad urges us to treat our wives kindly, and decently, and to listen to them and their point of view, and share with them all the wonderful experiences of life.
Such a married life of give and take, and of reasonable harmony, has a tremendous influence on the children, a good influence that will let everyone involved reap very good results.